Stop Measuring Your Love

The BookNo marriage begins with a scorecard.Yet sooner or later, many of us quietly begin measuring. We count who apologized last, who sacrificed more, who forgot, who remembered, who gave, who took. Without realizing it, the remarkable measuring mind that helps us build bridges, balance checkbooks, and solve problems begins judging the one person we promised to love.In Stop Measuring Love, Brother Paschal Baute draws upon fifty-seven years of marriage, decades as a counselor, and a lifetime of listening to people's stories to reveal why this happens—and how we can escape it.Blending neuroscience, humor, personal stories, and timeless wisdom, he explains that our brains evolved to compare, evaluate, and protect us. They were never designed to create unconditional love. When we understand this, everything changes.This is not simply a book about marriage. It is about every relationship that matters—with spouses, children, parents, friends, and even ourselves.The invitation is wonderfully simple: stop keeping score and begin recovering wonder.Love grows where measurement ends.If you have ever found yourself saying, "e;I did more,"e; "e;You never,"e; or "e;It's not fair,"e; this little book may gently change not only the way you love—but the way you see every human relationship.