Love In The Time of HIV

When Love in the Time of HIV was first published in 2002, HIV-positive gay men were living through a profound cultural and emotional transition. Treatments were improving, survival was becoming possible, and many were confronting a new and unexpected question: how do you build intimacy, romance, and lasting relationships while living in the shadow of HIV?

Part relationship guide, part cultural reflection, and part therapist's memoir, Michael Mancilla explores the emotional realities of dating, disclosure, fear, stigma, sexuality, and connection within the HIV-positive community. Drawing from clinical experience, personal insight, and interviews with gay men navigating love and survival during the AIDS era, the book captures a generation learning how to remain emotionally open in the face of uncertainty.

This updated Second Edition includes a new introduction reflecting on the evolution of HIV treatment, queer life, survival, aging, and the changing emotional landscape of LGBTQ relationships more than two decades later.

Honest, compassionate, and psychologically insightful, Love in the Time of HIV remains both a historical snapshot and a deeply human exploration of the universal longing to be known, desired, and loved.