You Are Not a Doormat and You Never Were

Someone abusing you does NOT mean there is something wrong with you.

We live in a world that often looks down on victim-survivors, who are seen as passive, weak and complicit. So not only do you suffer from being abused, but not surprisingly, you give yourself a hard time thinking you are useless and that it's your fault someone mistreated you.

It is time to throw away these negative assumptions.

As a therapist for over thirty years, I have had thousands of conversations with people who faced many different kinds of abuse, in childhood and adulthood.

I will show you that however painful the abuse is, people resist. Yes, you too. You resisted in some shape or form and I will help you to discover and value how you did this. We will debunk many forms of undeserved blame and how unhelpful it is to think that your responses are unhealthy. We will firmly put responsibility on the abusers, expose many of their tactics, and relearn to be kinder and more compassionate to ourselves and each other.

Together, let's challenge and throw away the notion that you are a doormat.